Goodbye, Marija

Monday, July 12, 2010

I'm struggling to write this because I'm still shell-shocked that something this bad could happen to someone so positive, and beautiful and talented and smart. I just learned that design blogger Marija Stephens (Court), whose blog, Holding Court, has probably been visited by many of you, passed away in a car accident this weekend.

I first "met" Marija when she discovered my blog. Whenever I received an e-mail alert that she had left a comment I got excited -- because her comments were always some of the funniest and most insightful. She never paid anyone lip service and meant everything she said.

While we never had a chance to meet in person, we corresponded about our love for this Neruda poem and for abandoned architecture. Of the latter, Marija wrote to me and said (with her characteristic sense of humor), "By the way, your post on abandoned architecture? Loved it. It's after reading that in particular that I went "okay, I get this girl - we could be friends." In a not blog-stalkerish kind of way..."

Reading back over that post today, I'm struck by the words of the photographer that must have resonated with Marija at the time:
"Maybe these buildings fascinate me because they represent all of us; maybe they are symbols of our own impermanent status here on earth - metaphors of our transient lives and inability to stop the passing of time...A couple of weeks before my dad died last year, my brothers and I were helping him out of his bed to go to the bathroom. As he struggled down the hall, he said quietly, "take a good look boys, this is going to be you sooner than you think." He was right. Our lives go by so quickly and we leave behind relics of our time here and of what we thought was important. Deep down I know this earth is not my home. `I'm just passing through,' as the old gospel song says."
I hope you'll visit her blog one last time to read a beautiful tribute from her husband, and that you'll keep him and their two young children in your thoughts.

9 comments:

Averill said...

It's just awful. Marija was so smart, such a great writer, mother, designer, everything...

jules @ The Diversion Project said...

i'm totally stunned by this sad news. marija was such a star. warm, friendly and so talented. huge, huge loss and just heart breaking with those gorgeous children and loving husband. just heart breaking. jx

Evi said...

she was beautiful both inside and out. it's terrible to hear something like this can happen to someone so wonderful. may she always be in our memories...

Tommy said...

This is such a terrible loss.

SPLENDEROSA said...

Darling, Catherine from The Shiny Pebble emailed me earlier today; she was in shock, and then I was in shock. Gone too soon this lovely woman who touched each of us in a very positive way. Reading the words her husband wrote one could feel the love in this family. This is very thoughtful & kind of you, Jenn. Thank you from all of us. Marsha

Charlotta Ward said...

I share your grief and have just returned from church where I lit candles for Marija, Nigel, Olivija, Cory and Mary.
I counted Marija as a dear friend and am numbed with pain.

Thank you for this post.

x Charlotta

Chelsea said...

Thanks for posting this. She always left such thoughtful comments on my blog and seemed like such a neat person. The tribute from her husband is so sweet.

Julie Holloway said...

I am sorry to comment so late on this post, but I just had to share one of my favorite poems about decaying architecture, "Ozymandia"...have you read it?

This is such a tragedy for this family...I am sorry.

Charlotta Ward said...

Just reading this again and wanted to let you know that I (and Debra Philips) have opened a memory blog in Marija's name. It's called 'Holding Forth'. I would love it if you wanted to do a guest post over there as part of the compendium of friendships and memories we are collating for Cory and the kids.

Please email me on charlottaward@y7mail.com

Thanks

xx Charlotta